The home base is universal. No matter your definitions for the rest of the bases, the home base always means sexual intercourse. At this point, you and your partner have connected on an emotional level. Now, the two of you are ready to share a physically intimate moment. This moment should be treasured. You can express yourself clearly to someone else who is ready to accept you for who you are.
So, respect your partner during your act of intimacy, as they deserve respect. Enthusiastic consent is always necessary, and consent can be withdrawn at any time by any person. First base, second base, third base, and a home run are your basic baseball euphemisms for sexual activity, intercourse, and everything leading up to.
However, other terms are borrowed from the sport to describe other things within a relationship. Here are some of the other perhaps not as well-known terms:. This one probably sounds familiar and is used quite often. In baseball, you get three attempts as the batter to hit the ball so that you can advance the game. Each missed swing is considered a strike. After three strikes, you are out, meaning your turn at bat is over, and the next batter is coming up to the plate.
At the old ballgame. Within the dating world, striking out works a little bit differently. While in both universes, it means you did not reach first base, in the dating world, it is not numbered. You could strike out endless times, or perhaps once. Remember that consent is always important and that while striking out has a negative connotation, if someone does not want to be intimate with you, you should respect their decision, respect their space, and move on.
Unlike baseball, striking out is not negative in the dating and sexual world. It simply means that the person you were interested in is either not interested in you at all and does not want to pursue a physical relationship with you or does not want to be physical at that time. Even if you are physically involved with someone, there can be times when that person does not want to be physical for various reasons.
They do not owe you the act of being physical, and it is important to get consent every single time to have a safe and happy sexual physical and sexual encounter. It is also important to be safe in your sexual encounters. In baseball, players not only wear a uniform but wear gear to protect themselves. Be sure to be safe in your sexual encounters. Use protection and stay educated, tested, and informed so that nothing unwanted comes out of the situation. Sexual arousal is different for everyone.
No matter what base you are on with your partner, it is important to keep the line of communication open to make sure you are both comfortable. People get aroused differently at each base, and talking to them during the process makes sure that everyone is on the same page.
The bases, while they have been generally defined here, can also be different for everyone. Even other vague terms — such as hooking up — can mean something different between two people. For some, maybe it is only first base and making out. For others, it could mean sleeping with someone and hitting the home run. And yet, for others, it could mean anything in between. First Base: Getting to first base usually means kissing or making out. Why kissing is deemed so racy that it actually needs a sports metaphor is kind of beyond me, but I'll go with it.
Second Base: Rounding second involves copping a feel. That is, someone is groping your chest or booty. Or vice versa. Whenever I chat about this topic which is really quite often there's always a bit of disagreement when it comes to second and third. To me, oral sex deserves its own base way more than a measly grab. If it were up to me, I'd include the whole feeling up business in first base. Second base would involve touching down there and oral would be placed at third.
But that's just me. It has been suggested that some of the confusion might be cleared up by designating "minor" and "major" leagues of play. That is, if you're "playing" in the minors, your bases would refer to the bolded list above.
We love to laugh, it builds bonds, makes us more attracted to our partner and helps us relax. So let loose a bit, let it be fun! Childish games have long gone and made way for more serious relationships, and more serious intimacy. Own your body and your right to call the shots for yourself. You deserve to feel the passion and joy that comes from all the different kinds of intimacy without anything holding you back.
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Learn more. What are the 4 Bases of Love? Contents 1 The 4 Relationship Bases 2 1. Lust 3 2. Boundaries 4 3. Kissing 5 4. Sensual Touch 6 5. Getting Intimate 7 6. Going All The Way 8 Conclusion. Related Content. Sonya Schwartz. A hopeless romantic that struggled for many years to find her Mr "Right" and made all the mistakes you could think of while dating.
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